Lately, I’ve been losing a lot of weight. (By a lot, I mean maybe ten pounds in the last month or two, which is a ton for me.) Ironically, this started happening long after I was making any effort to lose even a pound or two and totally stopped giving a shit about my weight. (I do weigh myself now and then, but mostly in an attempt to figure out how my hormones affect me at various times of the month.) So, I’ve gone from about 215 pounds to about 200 in the last few months, and I feel more confused than ever.
In the last week or so especially, I’ve been told over and over again how great I look and how much weight I’ve lost. I know everyone’s trying to be genuinely nice, but doesn’t that kind of imply that I looked less great when I was a little heavier? I mean, I’m still wearing the same sizes and everything, so the change is far from drastic. I don’t even notice it, so it’s weird to me that other people do. I have noticed that there’s more definition in my waist (and to be totally honest, I always wanted more of an hourglass shape, so I’m kind of stoked about that), but beyond that, I think I look almost exactly the same. I don’t even know that I want to lose weight anymore. I’ll never be thin, but I’m beginning to realize that while I’ll always be fat, I’ll always get comments like “well, you’re not that fat”, which, while well-intentioned, will always make me feel even shittier.
The more I read about fat-positivity and everything, the more I realize that I am, indeed, fat, and there’s nothing wrong with that. I’ve always been healthy and I have no aversion to food (although I definitely don’t eat enough calories to really sustain human life these days, thanks mostly to my financial situation), so I have no reason to diet. I’m happy, for the most part. What upsets me, though, is that people can’t be happy for me to be fat like they can when I lose weight. I understand the social implications of fatness and why people think the way they do, but I certainly don’t like it. And in terms of fatness, I’m definitely on the thinner side, so I have much more visibility than a lot of other women (even those who weigh about the same as me but have less “acceptable” shapes). Although I’m still sorting my own feelings towards my weight and the way others see it, I hope that through my visibility, I can change a few minds and make it easier for other fatties to feel comfortable in their own bodies, no matter what others say.